You hear it every day, without effective communication every relationship you have is at risk. Effective communication starts with you: good communication skills are essential in building lasting relationships. Here are some great pointers on enhancing your communication skills.

  • To connect instantly with someone, shake hands. Touch is the most primitive and powerful nonverbal clue. By making eye contact and giving a sturdy handshake, you are saying more about yourself than what you are verbally communicating. A sturdy handshake will portray that you are confident and trustworthy, it shows that
    you are person who communicates sincerely and professionally.
  • When you enter a conversation don’t veer off into what some refer to as “la-la land”. LISTEN to what the other party is saying and pause before responding. It will work wonders when it comes to communicating more effectively with others. When someone asks you a question, or it is your turn to speak, pause and think about how you are going to respond. By giving yourself a second to think, you are able to really understand what the other party is trying to communicate.
  • Next you want to check your body language. Research shows that 60 to 90% of communication with others is non-verbal. Which means that body language is extremely important for effective communication. By keeping a relaxed posture, you are showing that you feel comfortable in your surroundings. Keep your arms to your side or in your lap. Crossing your arms or fidgeting gives off the impression that you are turned off, not
    mentally there or waiting for the conversation to be over.
  • Eye contact is also extremely important, “wondering eyes” will give off the impression that you are self-conscious
    or don’t care about what is being communicated. Make sure to always make direct eye contact.
  • We have all heard it before, “it is not what you said, it is how you said it.” The tone of your voice is responsible for 35-40 percent of the message we are sending. Tone involves the volume you use and the way you fluctuate your voice. The level of emotion you communicate and emphasis that you place on the words that you choose can portray the opposite of what you are trying to communicate. By speaking clearly and slowly you are able to control how you come off.
  • And Lastly, be trustworthy and honest. When you are trustworthy and honest communication becomes a lot less complicated. If your communication isn’t honest, integrity is lost and relationships suffer. When you remain open and honest, you will have a much easier time communicating and others will feel a lot more willing to communicate with you. This obviously doesn’t give you a pass to be rude, tact matters as much as honestly.

Communication is a powerful tool that can make or break you. If you practice these simple, yet powerful techniques,
before long, you’ll find it easy to connect with just about anyone in any situation.